Men sure are hard to please!

(Screen shot of my BBM guy friends list)

Talking to my home girl about relationships the other day the question came up "How do you transition from dating to being exclusive?" My question was how do you know if the guy is even feeling you like that while your dating? Another friend of mine asked me "How do you know when a guy is just not into you?" Ummm IDK all guys I've dated were into me... some a little too much! So I couldn't help her with that. Anywho back to the matter at hand. We were seriously going over the signs a guy gives off and all. Then I said you know maybe it's the things we women do that either prolong becoming "girlfriend"or make him not want to be in a relationship with us period. So what does the genius in me do? I poll my BBM list of male friends! I sent out a BBM only to the guys and I have roughly about 48 asking them to list the Top 5 reasons they wouldn't make a girl they're dating their girlfriend. The answers floored me!!! Funny thing about men is when they're talking to a girl they are just friends with they can be brutally honest. However, in a relationship most of them are straight liars for no reason. I don't get it! But.... They were just a little too honest for me. I mean they opened my eyes just a bit on the little & big things you must hide if you want to go from friends to relationship LOL.

Some of the answers were your typical what I expected answers. Then I had the answers that I needed further explanation on. Lastly you had the funny answers, although funny to me I think they were dead serious!

THE LIST: Top 5 reasons you wouldn't make a female your dating your girlfriend.
  • Lack Ambition - I agree anyone who isn't on your level or trying to take you further in life is a turnoff after a while. It was fun while it lasted but buh bye!
  • Lack intelligence - Who wants a dumb broad?
  • No class - What determines your class? I'll have to go back & ask...
  • Bad habits (smoking, excessive drinking/clubbing) - Yea most guys put this one down.
  • Refuse to leave the past in the past - This is the funniest quote from one of the guys "Don't tell me shit about your past relationship ... If I need a warning I'm out!! Deuces". Ha!! Okay I'll make sure to never make that mistake.
  • Too known - Okay this one I don't agree! I am a popular person... WTH is wrong with that? I just happen to be well liked, is that a crime?
  • Hygiene - Nobody likes a stinky, messy, nasty female. Here's another funny quote "If she doesn't care about her stink ass, why should I?" These guys are too much!!!
  • Broke - Hummmm I'm on the fence with this one. Why does her income matter?
  • Disrespectful - My good pal Marcelis list this as well as others, all those who put this on their list remind me of no nonsense men who wear the pants and wouldn't have it any other way.
  • Not family oriented - "If she don't like her family, she damn sure won't like mine" ahahaha well alrighty then!
  • Already have a girlfriend - I'm very unhappy this was even on the list!! Guys STOP cheating...
  • She's American - Okay well that takes me and most of my friends and family off his radar! We're only good for screwing SMH I'm disappointed!!!
  • Push for a relationship - "Start asking -what are we? isn't gonna make you my girl any faster" LOL *note to self* don't ask demand!
  • She smashed the homies/ she's a jumpoff - Soooooo why are you even courting her?
  • Can't cook - LMAO that eliminates my whole generation!
  • Nag - Damn we just can't win. "If she's a headache while we're dating I won't be able to take her if I make her my girl" Whoa
  • Sex is bad - I mean.... I concur LOL
  • Cool wit the gov't life ie. welfare - I feel you!
  • She doesn't get along with my friends - "Bish my friends were here for me since day 1 & when your gone they gonna ride for me ... while you will be riding the next nicca". LMAO he was dead serious!!! I feel him tho because it's unfair to try to take your partner away from their friends not your place.

THIS EFF'N LIST IS WAY TOO LONG!!!!! THIS IS WHY THERE ARE SO MANY SINGLE WOMEN OUT HERE. I'm glad I did this... Now you ladies can see what is required of you to be that special lady. Thank God I don't have a problem finding a boyfriend. I really should've asked these guys how do I keep the fool LOL. Seriously tho ya'll dudes are too complicated for me. I even included my boyfriends answers in here. I just made the cut HA!!! Just kidding...

S/O to all my BBM buddies thanks for the feedback Mmmmuah u guys are great!

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Thursday, July 22, 2010 Posted in | | 11 Comments »

One Responses to "Men sure are hard to please!"

  1. Fresh Jacobs says: July 22, 2010 at 11:44 AM

    Ha! Love it. I don't agree with everything but overall it's pretty accurate.

  1. CJ3 says: July 22, 2010 at 11:58 AM

    LOL!!! I must have been confused cause most of these on the list would prevent me from fuckin wit a chick be4 she even has a chance 2 think I'm go wife her Bad Hygiene, disrespectful,no class we not even gettin 2 tha fuckin part let alone you gettin wifed lol!! All in all though great post lol!!

  1. Delia says: July 22, 2010 at 12:06 PM

    What's IRONIC? These are the women that KEEP a Man !!

  1. Shayna says: July 22, 2010 at 12:08 PM

    I love that one Delia!!!

  1. NEKITA says: July 22, 2010 at 1:58 PM

    MY PROB SHAY IS,THE NIGGAS THAT I COME ACROSS DONT WANT ME TO SEE ANYONE BUT THEM-AND I JUS CANT DO THAT! I LOVE BEING SINGLE!!!!!!

  1. Mike Lowrey says: July 22, 2010 at 6:00 PM

    Nice post.

  1. Shayna says: July 22, 2010 at 7:12 PM

    Thanks Mike! @Nekita I hear you darling!!! GO girl...

  1. Popular Stranger says: July 23, 2010 at 10:50 AM

    CTFU @ She's American!!! I wonder what ASSHOLE said that!!?? Honestly, you should put that niQQa on blast!! lmao!!

  1. Anonymous says: July 23, 2010 at 2:56 PM

    #FLOORED @ Popular Stranger's comment! LMAO! I agree, HE who feels as though being "American" will not make her a "girlfriend" needs to go back to his country!

    From my POV...If he already have a "girlfriend" then he shouldn't even be considering to date another female, but this is a never ending story with these men. I don't get it *sigh*. And I totally agree, the past is the past but one of the questions that most guys ask is "why are you single and what happened in your past relationship?" Why ask us if you don't need a warning...hmm. If we're not asked, there's no need to volunteer that information, right?! HA..she smashed the homies, BUT you're trying to smash too right?! What part of the game is THAT?! Oh yea, to get a nut! SMDH! Men and their complications need to come with a manual lol.

  1. Unknown says: July 25, 2010 at 8:59 AM

    Shay u didn't ask me...I wanna say if she too dependant on me, we can't go no further. I need a girl that's opinionated too (not smart mouthed or argumentative but...) she can make her own decision and not just be my "yes girl"...make suggestions too bish (lol thas how u write it right?) Oh and be original...I like a trendsetter not a trend follower. She gotta impress me!!! She gotta SHUT IT DOWN!

  1. Mike Lowrey says: July 26, 2010 at 7:09 AM

    As I read the post I was cracking on all the status and names that folks have. Then I looked at mine and I'm no damn better.

    Lemme, sign off my damn bbm as "Mr. I can Make It Wetter!"

    And why the fugg do folks try to tell you TMI, their whole life story, or try to get philosophical on their bbm status?

    Heffas, No I don't want to know you're currently eating corn flakes and playing with your lil bullet. That is TMI, sure you can send me pics but you don't have to announce the shyt to the whole community. Damn Blackberry is the devil's smartphone.

    But back to the subject at hand.

    Shay I've know you for like mad long so Imma keep it real on your blog just as I do mine.

    Let's be real fellas if a bytch sneezes wrong we tryna break things off and move to the next chick. The real issue is that guys know that chicks aren't wifey material and not even GF material, but yet we still date it. Why? Puddy.

    Fellas can list a million reasons but all of them...straight bullshyt.

    If IceT's wife CoCo was needy...mufuggers wouldn't care. If Rihanna or Beyonce couldn't cook, same dudes complaining wouldn't be in the kitchen slaving over 4 burners and snapping green beans. If Jackie O was broke, Bi-Polar, and had trouble seeing out of her left eye...Dudes would not give a DAMN.

    Fact is the better you look and the hotter the sex the more shyt we are willing to deal with to be with a chick.

    Nuff said. I can see mad dudes mean muggin and looking my way.

    Now Shay we really aren't hard to please.
    If a chick is pretty in the face, chest, and azz and can wear the slutty azz shyt we want her to wear, and talk that nasty azz slutty shyt we want to hear and fuggs us all types of dirty azz ways that would make White Jesus blush...we happy. Give us a corona and a sammich. We ain't going nowhere.

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