So I have a friend who needs some answers. I mean I have the answers for her but she doesn't wanna listen to me. So I'm gonna blog about her situation and see what you people have to say.
Since she's my friend you know about what age she is... She's happily married with kids and has been for a while now. She likes her job and her home life is pretty good (can't complain). HOWEVER she's having the urge all of a sudden to cheat. Ahhh I wouldn't even say cheat. More to be out there. In the single people mix. Get attention, have fun (single people fun), meet new people (guys). And although her home life is good she still longs for that life.
Now! We've talked about this plenty of times and since I'm alwaysconvinced I'm convinced she needs some new friends! That's my answer. She says she has married friends but they're lame. LOL I mean I know I'm fun but home girl you can't hang around me! You can't call me and listen to my club stories. You can't look at the pictures of my trips with the girls. That's motivation to wanna live my life (not my life literally but the single life). I'm a bad influence and all your other single friends are too!! Now don't get me wrong you can have single friends but theres a limit to your closeness. Birthdays, holidays, and facebook that's IT. I know ya'll married people gonna say NOOO that's not true but please miss me with your reasons I'm convinced.
I'm not gonna lie I wanna get married like borderline (psycho) about it. I got my ring picked out, wedding dress designer, and bridesmaids (well I dropped a few bitches over the years) but you get me. However I'm honestly happy to be single(figuratively not literally) right now in my life. I'm young, dumb, living carefree making my mistakes now and not when I'm 32 cus I got tied down too early. But... Know that when I DO get my Tiffany & co. diamond and walk down that isle I'm cutting my time in half with all you bitches reading. You will NOT be telling me how much fun you and the girls had in Vegas. Or how fine the guys were in Jamaica. Call me when you get pregnant I'll come to the shower, call me when you get engaged I'll come get fitted for my dress, and call me when you get dumped I'll still be that ear. Other than that HOLLA *in my Frankie voice*
Back to my friend... She doesn't seem to think I'm right! She thinks she's at a peak. WTF?!?! WTF is a peak??? *rolling my eyes* child please. Anyway I need ya'll to either share your stories or give some advice. Cus I aint married I honestly don't know what the hell is the girls problem. Maybe it's just the inner slore in her tryna come out. IDK but I told her what I think.
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Cloyed Brown
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August 5, 2010 at 4:38 PM
So, as a person who is recently engaged and is about to be married. also as a person who studies marriage. I think that i can understand her want, but that is because she is recovering addict of the single girl life. The truth is we (engaged/married persons) all are recovering addicts from the single life. It takes a while to break those single habits, because most likely you have been single a lot longer than you have been married, so you have to break a life time of habits. So you must approach it as you would any other addiction. If you were struggling with Alcoholism you wouldn't take yourself to the bar because it is too much temptation. It is just the plain truth. I guess i am really just agreeing with Shanya. Because you have the urge to be out there living the single life, doesn't mean that you should or that you truly want to. She does have to change who she hangs out with because she no longer has the same concerns and responsibilities as her single friends. Just as a single parent has to change the way they do things. I am not saying that you and those single friends can't hang out, but just that it has to be an understanding, at the end of the night you have a husband and family to get to. Do you always have to do couples thing? No, but remember the old saying birds of a feather flock together. You must also realize that hind sight is 20/20. The life you are wanting a lot of times is what the single girls are longing to leave behind. Hope this helps.
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mocha
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August 5, 2010 at 10:04 PM
i think they both need to talk about they're true feelings and work it out.. as a married person myself,couples go through up and down feelings. maybe they should get counseling and the grass isnt greener on the other side. as far as friends go, i think she can have single friends she's a grown up and should be able to choose what she does and dont let temptations get the best of her. I say pray about the situation. but communication is the key and yes i agree that they BOTH should find a wasy to spark things back up with each other. hope this helps...smoooches!!!!!
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Unknown
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August 9, 2010 at 3:23 AM
Shay u know my situation. I'm on the verge of getting married and I can say I can see where a married person can say ur wrong when u said she gotta limit her time wit the single friends. They wanna believe that there not under the influence when they really are. Me being like the only dude in my team in a committed relationship (I'm a father/fiance) I do believe that those type of friends are an influence. They still my friends but that single life is enticing, when u hear those club stories, and those one night stand offs and the 3 somes, and those hedonism type vacations and...did I mention 3somes. It can get really tempting so I can feel ya friend on her feelings. But I really agree wit u on the level of communication btween the 2 (married/single friends) b4 I knew it there was a noticeable distance btween me n my guys. Now the only time I do see thm is bdays or chillin at my crib or on facebook/text msgs. They still my boys tho. And for ya friend its kinda a self control thing...lookin n liking is cool but just don't cross that line. Just breathe easy. Bizness signing off!
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Truth of da matter is everything can't be all that great @ home since she's in search of new friends, attention & excitement. & I'm saying that in the sense of this if she claims dat everything is good @ home & she has married friends, she don't need no new friends!! She need 2 get da SPICE back in her relationship. & I hope she ain't waitin on hubby 2 do it cuz we don't think of dat type of shit she need 2 map out a plan 2 bring sexy back in that relationship not just in da bedroom but in all ways ex: goin out on dates, & trips shit like dat. She need 2 plan sum shit & get hubby involved wit all dat type of shit too cuz if not she gonna be gettin more dick den a fagg in jail. & It may not be just because she's a cheater, but just cause HE's gonna give her that attention she wants.
2ND FL!!